Be assertive learning review

What I have learned so far in English is being assertive which is being straight to the point but firm. This blog will be a review of the things that we have gone through about being assertive.

here is the link to the teacher's resource 

1. What are the four types of behavioural responses, and what does each mean?

Aggressive: unsatisfied, being forceful, control.

Passive: just accepting what is happening and just move on about it, unresisting.

Indirect: not being straight, avoiding direct exposition of a subject.

Assertive: maintain respect, defending your rights, satisfy your needs, and being polite but firm.

2. What is the definition of assertive communication?

Being straight to the point but firm/ being confident.

Maintain respect defend what's right and satisfy your needs.

3. What are the three describes? when should you use them?

Situation: focusing on behaviour, not motive 

Feeling: focus on positive feelings, not negatives, use of I statement, explain what you feel.

Changes you want: stating your action politely but firmly, be specific, but reasonable.

4. List, explain 5 assertive communication tools?

I, us, we, being positive, and acknowledge their feeling.

5. List and explanation of 3 barriers to assertive communication?

Cultural: this can be like how before women didn't have opinion s that matter and they don't have the same rights as men.

Gender: this can be men have an easier responding to men while men respond to a woman is another story.

Age: This can some people will say to a younger person that he has less experience than the other older person.

Status: This can be an employee talking trying to be assertive to the manager or a person trying to be assertive to a teacher.

Bias: this can be your family being against your hopes and dream of your dream job as your family is not into it.

6. What does assertive communication look like?

Maintaining eye contact, setting up straight, facing the person, not smiling or giggle relaxing arms, and a nod to show that you are listening.

7. What does assertive communication sound like?

Just right = clear, not too loud and high pitched, in a varying level.

8. What does it mean to act like a scratched record when it comes to your boundaries?

9. My friends tease me about random things, and I don't really do anything. This is a passive response but in result, we are still friends in the end.

10. Now I respond in this situation depending on what I feel to say. This usually ends up good and sometimes bad. I want to change this by trying to be mostly having an assertive response which is difficult. In the future, I will try to remember how to respond assertively to not have a bad response with others.